Protecting privacy during technology-facilitated abuse

01

Separate observations from explanations

Write down what happened: an unexpected login, a statement revealing private information, a changed password or a threat. These observations matter even when you cannot identify the technical cause. Avoid assuming that unusual battery use alone proves monitoring software.

If you suspect the device is monitored, consider a safer device and communication route for seeking support. Think about shared email access, recovery numbers and household accounts as well as the phone itself. A new password sent to a shared inbox may not create private access.

02

Plan changes in a safe order

The FTC advises considering safety and evidence before removing suspected stalkerware. An advocate familiar with technology-facilitated abuse can help evaluate options. You do not need to confront the person or demonstrate the suspected monitoring to them.

• Identify a contact method that is safe for you.
• Decide where necessary incident records can be kept privately.
• List shared accounts and recovery channels.
• Consider how account changes or notifications might be noticed.
• Coordinate urgent physical-safety needs with appropriate local help.

03

Keep the record useful and limited

A simple incident log can separate date, observation, supporting record and action taken. Preserve originals where safe, and avoid uploading your entire private history to a general-purpose form. Ask any professional helping you how they will communicate and protect access to the file.

For example, changing a shared photo account may affect both location information and access to family records. Plan those dependencies before making a broad reset. The objective is safer control over information, not a perfect technical diagnosis before you are allowed to seek support.

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